Easy eight-step for reconnecting with your partner for a healthy marriage.


Effective marriage counseling must balance the past, present, and future always helping the couple make links between where they’ve come from and where they want to go to improve their reconnecting. Most couples start out with high expectations for a strong, happy, and healthy marriage. And then life gets going, and day-to-day realities or difficult circumstances begin to deflate or even burst that bubble.

It is effective when both partners are committed to each other, willing to make an all-out effort to improve their relationship through therapy, and are working with a competent and experienced marriage-counseling specialist. Here are 8 steps that will help you easily reconnecting with your partner.

Each step builds on the one before it, so even if certain steps resonate more than others, it’s important to work through the entire program. The steps that may already be an area of relationship strength will give you positive momentum in the steps that are more challenging. And each step provides you with a new tool to heal and strengthen your marriage, along with many interactive opportunities to practice the skills and make positive changes.


  • Step 1 is  Communicate Effectively

” Communication is the foundation of all relationships. In this step, you’ll improve your ability to communicate with love and respect. Financial issues often top the list of reasons couples fight.

  • Step 2, is Face Finances,

in step 2 you’ll learn what these fights actually mean and how to resolve them. And those new communication skills will be especially important for the discussions and exercises.

  • Step 3, is Explore Intimacy.
  •  Step 4 is when you’ll “Reunite as We,”

reestablishing your relationship to the highest level of priority without sacrificing your individuality.

  • Step 5, is Build Trust,

in this step, you’ll explore the big and small ways partners undermine trust in one another and learn how to repair the damage.

  • Step 6, “Revisit Family,”

helps you identify and relieve the parenting and family stressors that strain your marriage. An imbalance in household equality often causes resentment and conflict,

  •  step 7, Redefine Relationship Roles,

in this step, you’ll learn how to improve your teamwork.

  • step 8 is where you’ll Make the Commitment

to a long-lasting married future that is healthy and strong.

The gendered roles of partner husband, wife are often fraught with expectations that come from our families of origin, our culture, books and movies, and the mentor couples we know. Expectations of relationships can help us strive for what we value, or they can undermine our ability to accept reality. But husband and wife aren’t the only roles we play in marriage. The other roles we play are like following scripts they come with rules, expectations, and behaviors. We take on roles in relationships based on our innate skills, our learned experience, and the expectations of our partner. Some roles come naturally to us; others seem required but do not feel comfortable. In this way, relationship roles can be like jobs: Some jobs are easy, and others are hard. And these roles can strengthen your sense of partnership or undermine your teamwork.


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